From the Book: Divorce Amicably
This is a chapter summary from Chapter 6 of Divorce Amicably, a guide to navigating separation with dignity and cooperation.
Chapter 10 Author: Tracy Ann Moore-Grant
I have represented clients and practiced exclusively in the area of family law since 2002. In 2019, I made the decision to be a non-litigation family law attorney. I am a passionate believer that parties, not the court, are in the best position to come up with solutions to their family law issues. The court system is designed as an adversarial system to pit parties against one another, say negative things about one another, increase cost and animosity and leave parties and children broken...
Chapter 10 Summary: Comparing the Different Lanes of the Divorce Highway
Picture divorce as a three-lane highway where your choice of lane determines not just your speed, but your entire journey's cost, duration, and emotional toll. In this eye-opening chapter, Tracy Ann Moore-Grant provides the comprehensive comparison that every divorcing couple needs but rarely finds—a clear, data-driven analysis of all divorce options from uncontested to contested, with special focus on the middle-lane alternatives that 90% of couples don't fully understand. Using real statistics from sources including the American Bar Association and US Census Bureau, she reveals shocking cost disparities that range from DIY options to six-figure legal battles.
Most importantly, Moore-Grant pulls back the curtain on the critical differences between amicable and collaborative divorce—two middle-lane options that sound similar but operate on fundamentally different principles. She exposes industry secrets about professional vetting, the "pod" system that limits your choices, and why some approaches force you to start over with new professionals if negotiations fail. This chapter delivers the insider knowledge that empowers couples to make informed decisions based on facts, not marketing promises or attorney preferences.
Key Takeaways from Chapter 10
Who Should Read This Chapter
This chapter is absolutely essential for anyone facing divorce who wants to make an informed decision rather than defaulting to what their attorney suggests. If you've been confused by the similarity between "amicable" and "collaborative" divorce, or wondered why quotes from different attorneys vary by tens of thousands of dollars, Moore-Grant's detailed comparison finally provides clarity.
Perfect for analytical thinkers who want hard data on costs and timelines, couples who value maintaining control over their professional team choices, and anyone who suspects there must be a better way than traditional litigation but doesn't understand the alternatives. This chapter is particularly valuable if you're interviewing attorneys and want to ask the right questions, or if you've already started one process but sense it might not be the best fit for your situation.
Get your copy of "Divorce Amicably" today and arm yourself with the knowledge that could save you tens of thousands of dollars and years of unnecessary conflict—because choosing the right divorce lane is a decision you only get to make once.
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