From the Book: Divorce Amicably
This is a chapter summary from Chapter 6 of Divorce Amicably, a guide to navigating separation with dignity and cooperation.
Chapter 70 Author: Dara Marias
Dara Marias oversees Kainen Law Group's Holistic Divorce practice. Ms. Marias' practice includes three areas: (1) amicable divorce representation, (2) divorce mediation, and (3) holistic divorce education. As a Certified Amicable Divorce Professional with a Specialty Designation in Gray Divorce from the Amicable Divorce Network, Ms. Marias provides non-litigated divorce representation to clients who, together with their spouses, seek to resolve all their divorce issues outside of the court system. Ms. Marias is also Nevada's only Certified Advanced Practitioner with the Academy of Professional Family Mediators.
Reframing the Relationship: From Spouses to Co-Parents
Healthy co-parenting requires shifting your mindset. You are no longer partners in marriage—you are partners in raising your child. Like a respectful business relationship, co-parenting thrives on clear communication, low emotional intensity, and consistent focus on the child’s needs. Ask yourself before speaking: Would I say this to a co-worker?
The CPR of Co-Parenting: Continuity, Protection, and Reassurance
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Continuity: Maintain consistent routines, rules, and schedules to create stability. Reliability builds security.
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Protection: Shield children from parental conflict, divorce logistics, and emotional oversharing. Let kids be kids, not mediators.
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Reassurance: Remind children they are loved by both parents, that divorce is not their fault, and that they will continue strong relationships with both of you.
Nurturing Emotional Expression
Children need help identifying, expressing, and managing emotions. Create an open environment where all feelings are welcome, listen actively, validate emotions, and normalize their experiences. Encourage mindfulness, self-awareness, and healthy coping tools like breathing exercises. Protect your child from blame by reminding them: parents will figure it out.
Putting Children First
Every decision—every word, text, or action—should be guided by one central question: Am I doing right by my child? Co-parenting is not about winning arguments or proving points; it is about prioritizing the child’s well-being above everything else.
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