From the Book: Divorce Amicably
This is a chapter summary from Chapter 6 of  Divorce Amicably, a guide to navigating separation with dignity and cooperation.
Chapter 35 Author: Stephanie Robins
With over 20 years experience as a clinical social worker and family therapist, and as a graduate of University of Alabama specializing in Children, Adolescents, and Families, she is currently serving as private practitioner working with a broad spectrum of clients. Her areas of expertise are in Anxiety Disorders, ADHD Interventions, Infertility/Postpartum, Marital/Relationship, Play Therapy, Grief/Loss, Divorce Adjustment, & Parent Education.
In addition to being a prominent relationship and family therapist, Stephanie Robins, LCSW has presented at National conferences and to general audiences speaking on the topics of Parent Education, Anxiety Interventions with Children, Grief/Loss, Play Therapy, Divorce/Stepfamilies, and Anger/Stress Management.
Chapter 35's Strategic Guide to Announcing Your Divorce
The decision to divorce is deeply personal, but eventually it becomes public knowledge—and how you manage that transition can determine whether you receive support or judgment, privacy or intrusion, healing or additional trauma. In this invaluable chapter, licensed clinical social worker Stephanie Robins addresses the complex choreography of divorce disclosure, from the emotional preparation required before sharing to managing the aftermath of others' reactions. She reveals the hidden dangers of premature disclosure, including how sharing before key decisions creates stress rather than support.
Robins provides scripts for every challenging conversation—from telling judgmental parents to curious coworkers to devastated children. She tackles the most difficult scenarios head-on: when your spouse tells the children without you, when people demand explanations you're not ready to give, and when sensitive reasons like addiction or infidelity complicate your narrative. Through careful timing strategies and boundary-setting techniques, this chapter transforms the daunting prospect of "going public" into a manageable process that preserves your dignity while accessing the support you need.
Four Critical Strategies from Chapter 35 for Divorce Disclosure
Who Needs Chapter 35's Disclosure Framework
This chapter is essential for anyone dreading the moment when divorce becomes public knowledge, those worried about judgment from family or religious communities, and parents agonizing over how to tell children without causing lasting damage. It's crucial reading for those with sensitive divorce reasons they can't or won't share publicly.
Perfect for people-pleasers who struggle with boundaries when faced with intrusive questions, those whose spouse might weaponize disclosure by telling others first or sharing damaging information, and anyone trying to maintain professional reputation while navigating personal crisis. Whether you're weeks from filing or already deep in proceedings but haven't told anyone, Robins's framework provides the roadmap for controlled, dignified disclosure.
Get your copy of "Divorce Amicably" today and learn how to announce your divorce on your terms, with your boundaries intact—because you have the right to share your story when you're ready, how you're ready, with whom you're ready.
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