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Chapter 74: Finding Yourself Again

From the Book: Divorce Amicably
This is a chapter summary from Chapter 6 of  Divorce Amicably, a guide to navigating separation with dignity and cooperation.

Chapter 74 Author: Stephanie Robins

With over 20 years experience as a clinical social worker and family therapist, and as a graduate of University of Alabama specializing in Children, Adolescents, and Families, she is currently serving as private practitioner working with a broad spectrum of clients. Her areas of expertise are in Anxiety Disorders, ADHD Interventions, Infertility/Postpartum, Marital/Relationship, Play Therapy, Grief/Loss, Divorce Adjustment, & Parent Education.

In addition to being a prominent relationship and family therapist, Stephanie Robins, LCSW has presented at National conferences and to general audiences speaking on the topics of Parent Education, Anxiety Interventions with Children, Grief/Loss, Play Therapy, Divorce/Stepfamilies, and Anger/Stress Management.

 

A Step-by-Step Guide to Rediscovery

  • Embrace Your Emotions
    Divorce brings sadness, anger, guilt, and sometimes relief. Grieving is part of the process. Allow yourself to feel without judgment and seek counseling if needed.

  • Revisit Your Passions
    Reconnect with hobbies and interests that once brought you joy—or try something new. Start small, dedicating time each week to an activity that excites you.

  • Reflect on Values and Goals
    Divorce is a reset point. Write down your personal values and both short- and long-term goals to create a clear vision for your future.

  • Lean on Your Support System
    Surround yourself with friends, family, or support groups. Share what you need, whether it’s emotional support or simply companionship.

  • Establish New Routines
    Structure restores stability. Build simple rituals like morning walks, journaling, or dedicated self-care days to anchor your daily life.

  • Set Healthy Boundaries
    Protect your peace, especially in communication with your ex. Boundaries safeguard emotional health and help you focus on your healing.

  • Reconnect with Yourself
    Practice self-compassion and explore what makes you feel fulfilled. Try meditation, journaling, or solo outings to strengthen your relationship with yourself.

  • Embrace the Unknown
    Divorce opens new doors. Whether it’s travel, career shifts, or long-delayed dreams, this is your chance to pursue opportunities once on hold.

  • Celebrate Growth
    Every step—big or small—is progress. Redefine divorce not as failure, but as a step toward resilience, authenticity, and self-discovery.

Moving Toward a New Chapter

Divorce changes your life, but it also clears space for reinvention. By embracing emotions, reconnecting with passions, and setting boundaries, you give yourself permission to heal and grow. Remember: this isn’t just survival—it’s transformation. Be patient with yourself, celebrate progress, and create a life filled with purpose and joy.

Begin Your Journey of Renewal

Divorce Amicably provides tools and guidance to help you rebuild life on your terms. Order your copy today and take the next step toward rediscovering yourself and shaping a future that excites you.

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