From the Book: Divorce Amicably
This is a chapter summary from Chapter 6 of Divorce Amicably, a guide to navigating separation with dignity and cooperation.
Chapter 69 Author: Stephanie Robins
With over 20 years experience as a clinical social worker and family therapist, and as a graduate of University of Alabama specializing in Children, Adolescents, and Families, she is currently serving as private practitioner working with a broad spectrum of clients. Her areas of expertise are in Anxiety Disorders, ADHD Interventions, Infertility/Postpartum, Marital/Relationship, Play Therapy, Grief/Loss, Divorce Adjustment, & Parent Education.
In addition to being a prominent relationship and family therapist, Stephanie Robins, LCSW has presented at National conferences and to general audiences speaking on the topics of Parent Education, Anxiety Interventions with Children, Grief/Loss, Play Therapy, Divorce/Stepfamilies, and Anger/Stress Management.
Why Schools Need to Know About Your Divorce
Children facing divorce often struggle with emotional or academic challenges. Teachers and counselors can be strong allies—but only if they understand what’s happening at home. Sharing key information allows educators to provide support, monitor behavior changes, and connect your child with resources like counseling or peer support groups.
Custody Agreements and School Documentation
Clear records prevent confusion and protect your child. Schools need accurate custody and decision-making information to handle emergencies and day-to-day matters.
Steps to Take:
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Provide a copy of your divorce decree with custody terms.
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Upload documents to the school’s online portal (if available).
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Clarify custody language in plain terms for staff.
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Schedule a meeting with administrators if your case is complex.
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Update emergency contact lists so the school knows who to call.
Understanding Tie-Breaking Authority in Education
Some custody agreements grant one parent final decision-making power when disputes arise. This authority can affect:
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School selection (public vs. private, relocation decisions)
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Special education services (testing, accommodations)
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Class placement (honors, advanced placement, or standard classes)
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Extracurricular participation (sports, arts, or time-heavy activities)
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Disciplinary matters (suspensions or detentions)
If one parent has tie-breaking authority, ensure the school knows whom to contact.
School Counseling and Support Services
Many schools offer counseling and peer support for children of divorcing parents. These services can help kids process emotions, build resilience, and feel less alone.
How to Access Support:
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Ask about group sessions for children of divorce.
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Meet with the school counselor to discuss your child’s needs.
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Share observed changes in your child’s behavior.
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Schedule periodic check-ins throughout the year.
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Request referrals to outside counseling if needed.
Helping Your Child Thrive After Divorce
Divorce is challenging, but it doesn’t have to derail your child’s education. Divorce Amicably offers strategies and tools to help parents work with schools and other support systems. Secure your copy today to learn how to create stability for your child during family transitions.
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