From the Book: Divorce Amicably
This is a chapter summary from Chapter 6 of  Divorce Amicably, a guide to navigating separation with dignity and cooperation.
Chapter 37 Author: Stephanie Robins
With over 20 years experience as a clinical social worker and family therapist, and as a graduate of University of Alabama specializing in Children, Adolescents, and Families, she is currently serving as private practitioner working with a broad spectrum of clients. Her areas of expertise are in Anxiety Disorders, ADHD Interventions, Infertility/Postpartum, Marital/Relationship, Play Therapy, Grief/Loss, Divorce Adjustment, & Parent Education.
In addition to being a prominent relationship and family therapist, Stephanie Robins, LCSW has presented at National conferences and to general audiences speaking on the topics of Parent Education, Anxiety Interventions with Children, Grief/Loss, Play Therapy, Divorce/Stepfamilies, and Anger/Stress Management.
Chapter 37's Guide to Avoiding Divorce's Most Costly Mistakes
Every divorce attorney has stories of clients who sabotaged their own cases through preventable mistakes—social media posts that cost custody, rushed settlements that overlooked assets, or revenge tactics that backfired spectacularly. In this essential chapter, licensed clinical social worker Stephanie Robins catalogs the most damaging divorce mistakes she's witnessed and provides specific strategies to avoid each one. Drawing from years of helping clients navigate divorce's emotional minefield, she reveals how seemingly logical decisions made in emotional moments create consequences that last decades.
Robins addresses mistakes across every domain: legal missteps like withholding information from attorneys, financial errors like rushing settlements, emotional traps like attempting reconciliation mid-divorce, and social disasters like oversharing online. She demonstrates how each mistake stems from understandable impulses—the desire to end pain quickly, seek validation, or punish a spouse—while showing why following these impulses invariably makes divorce longer, more expensive, and more damaging. Most importantly, this chapter provides alternative approaches that protect your interests without creating new problems.
Four Critical Mistakes from Chapter 37 to Avoid
Who Needs Chapter 37's Mistake-Prevention Checklist
This chapter is absolutely essential for anyone feeling overwhelmed and tempted to "just get it over with," those whose friends and family are offering conflicting advice about what they "should" do, and people whose anger makes revenge feel more important than resolution. It's crucial reading for social media users who process emotions publicly and anyone considering major life changes during divorce.
Perfect for those who think their situation is unique and professional advice doesn't apply, people struggling to maintain boundaries with their ex-spouse, and anyone whose emotions are overriding logic in decision-making. Whether you're just starting divorce proceedings or already deep in negotiations, Robins's mistake catalog provides the warning signs needed to avoid sabotaging your own case.
Get your copy of "Divorce Amicably" today and learn from others' expensive mistakes rather than making your own—because in divorce, one impulsive decision can cost you custody, assets, or peace of mind for years to come.
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