From the Book: Divorce Amicably
This is a chapter summary from Chapter 6 of  Divorce Amicably, a guide to navigating separation with dignity and cooperation.
Chapter 31 Author: Tori E. Owens
With fifteen years' experience in North Georgia working as a children's advocate and parent educator to caregivers and their children impacted by trauma, abuse and violence, Tori translates that knowledge to her role as therapist, parent coordinator, and registered neutral. She is committed to helping parents prioritize the needs of their children and respectfully create practical and effective parenting plans.
Chapter Summary: Divorce and Personality Disorders
Divorce often heightens stress, grief, and anxiety, which can cause people to temporarily display difficult or even narcissistic traits. However, there’s a clear distinction between temporary stress-driven behaviors and long-term, trauma-rooted patterns seen in diagnosable personality disorders. This chapter explores that difference, focusing on how personality disorders—particularly those in Cluster B (antisocial, borderline, histrionic, and narcissistic)—play out in relationships and complicate divorce.
Owens explains how trauma, attachment issues, and fight-or-flight responses shape these disorders, and why they often surface most strongly in relationships. While many fear that divorce with a personality-disordered spouse must go to court, the author stresses that amicable divorce is still possible with the right professionals, planning, and boundaries. Readers are reminded to prioritize self-care, lean on mental health resources, and create distance from manipulative behaviors.
Key Takeaways from Chapter 32
Who This Chapter is For
This chapter is for divorcing spouses who suspect or know they are dealing with a partner with a personality disorder, as well as those who want to understand how trauma and mental health affect relationships during separation. It’s also valuable for friends, family, and professionals supporting someone in this situation.
Why You Should Read Divorce Amicably
Chapter 32 reminds us that even when faced with personality disorders, it’s possible to pursue a healthier, less destructive divorce. Divorce Amicably equips readers with insight, strategies, and professional perspectives to navigate one of life’s toughest transitions with clarity and support. Pick up your copy today and take the first step toward protecting your peace and future.
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