From the Book: Divorce Amicably
This is a chapter summary from Chapter 6 of  Divorce Amicably, a guide to navigating separation with dignity and cooperation.
Chapter 27 Author: J. Ashley Heredia
Ashley has practiced law for fifteen years with thirteen of those dedicated solely to family law. Prior to opening her own law practice, Ashley worked for some of Atlanta's most prestigious family law firms.
As a child of divorced parents, Ashley knows first-hand how difficult divorce can be on children. Ashley is dedicated to achieving amicable resolutions that help parties maintain a civil relationship after the conclusion of their case. Ashley is known for having a good working relationship with her peers and is well respected by other lawyers in the family law community. These qualities greatly benefit Ashley’s clients by promoting settlement and amicable outcomes in her cases.
Chapter 27's Practical Roadmap for Child-Centered Divorce
Too many divorcing parents know what they should do but struggle with the daily execution—especially when emotions run high and children ask difficult questions. In this invaluable chapter, family law attorney J. Ashley Heredia provides a concrete, actionable framework that transforms good intentions into daily practices that protect children. As former Chair of the Family Law Section of the Atlanta Bar Association, she's witnessed how seemingly small parental mistakes create lasting childhood trauma, and more importantly, how simple behavioral adjustments can preserve children's emotional security.
Heredia structures this chapter as a comprehensive "don't do this, do this instead" guide that addresses the most common pitfalls divorcing parents face. From the temptation to vent on social media to the urge to make unilateral decisions about children, she provides specific alternatives that maintain boundaries while protecting children's innocence. This practical approach removes the guesswork from child-centered divorce, offering clear scripts for difficult conversations, strategies for managing emotional triggers, and techniques for maintaining stability when everything else feels chaotic.
Essential Guidelines from Chapter 27's To-Do List
Who Must Read Chapter 27's Practical Guidelines
This chapter is essential for parents who know they should prioritize their children but find themselves slipping into destructive patterns when triggered, those tempted to use children as messengers or confidants, and anyone struggling to maintain boundaries with a high-conflict ex-spouse. It's crucial reading for parents who've already made mistakes and need a reset framework to rebuild trust.
Perfect for those overwhelmed by the emotional intensity of divorce who need concrete daily practices rather than abstract advice, parents worried their stress is affecting their children, and anyone who wants a checklist approach to ensuring child-centered decisions. Whether you're just starting divorce proceedings or trying to improve an existing co-parenting dynamic, Heredia's practical framework transforms overwhelming principles into manageable daily actions.
Get your copy of "Divorce Amicably" today and access the practical to-do list that ensures your children emerge from divorce emotionally intact—because knowing what's best for children isn't enough; you need a daily practice guide for actually doing it.
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